Comments on: What Does Mommy Do?

By: Betsy

Betsy — Wed, 13 Jun 2012 05:03:02 +0000

How true it is that each of us sees through our own eyes!

I do not disagree with anything you said (except for the query about my client. She genuinely felt she had nothing else to do). My blog is meant to give permission to develop other parts of oneself and to offer many reasons to do so. Working in addition to one’s work as a mom makes for a very full plate. And I am sure you cherish every moment with your children. It sounds like you are doing a good job of not listening to what “society” is telling you to do.

By: Betsy BB

Betsy BB — Wed, 13 Jun 2012 04:53:27 +0000

I am glad that this blog speaks to you. I think balance is the key word here.

By: Amy

Amy — Wed, 13 Jun 2012 04:11:03 +0000

Hmm. As a working mom who “has to go to work” to put a roof over our heads and food on the table, I’m not sure I agree that now, when my children are small and living under that “roof” is when I should break up what little “non-work” time I have to take that cooking class or have that lunch with a BC friend with whom, if I’m really honest, I have so little in common these days. I am fully aware that this amount of time I get to spend with my children will come to an end, and it’s probably just around the corner when they are under my roof, but don’t want me anywhere near them! Just as I did so much in my 20s and early 30s that I cannot do today, I want to do those things today that I cannot do when my children no longer want me around. And to have a divorce cut into that time with my children, time I wasn’t planning to cut in half, would probably crush me too. Maybe it’s not that she hasn’t thought to nurture her own interests but she has nurtured exactly what she wanted to do and now a divorce that she did not plan on is taking away her opportunity to do the one thing she really wants to do at this phase in her life? I agree that Mommy can’t be “all work and all Mommy”, but I tire of society insisting that I work AND have this full life outside of my children. And for those of us who work because we have to and feel sad leaving our children in the care of others to go to work, why is it so wrong to spend the rest of our non-working time making being a mom a priority? There’s always time to pick up golf or knitting in my 50s!

By: Jill K

Jill K — Wed, 13 Jun 2012 02:31:12 +0000

I so remember feeling that way when I got divorced. Fortunately I have so much more in my life now. Kids will be #1 but I have other interests.

By: Jaime

Jaime — Tue, 12 Jun 2012 22:30:34 +0000

I absolutely love this blog. As a working mom who enjoys reading, baking, working out, writing, date nights with my husband, spending time with friends and other hobbies, I am glad to finally hear someone acknowledge that my three kids do not always have to be my primary focus. I love the time I spend with my kids, but I think that I am a better and healthier mom because I choose to engage in a variety of non-mom activities. There is a lot of pressure in society today to make kids the center of our lives. Thanks for validating my decision to balance my kids’ needs with my own needs and desires.