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Adolescents

The After-Burn of Starting School

by on Aug.13, 2014, under Adolescents, Behavior, Brat-Proofing, Communication, Elementary School Children, Expectations, Parenting, School, Transitions

Summer time, and the livin’ is easy, as the song goes. And there it went! There can be a whole lot more to starting school than starting school. Whether a child is beginning preschool, third grade, middle or high school, after a long summer or just an... Read more...
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The Problem with “It’s Not Fair.”

by on Mar.17, 2014, under Adolescents, Behavior, Brat-Proofing, Child development, Communication, Elementary School Children, Expectations, Parent modeling, Parenting

“It’s not fair!”   Can’t you just hear the whiney tone that delivers that exclamation?   I’ve yet to meet a parent whose child hasn’t at some point or other protested “That’s not faaaiiiiiirrrr?”  (Note the drawn out faaaiiiirrrr,  added for extra impact on you, the parent.) As common and... Read more...
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Empathy is a Two Way Street

by on Feb.10, 2014, under Adolescents, Behavior, Brat-Proofing, Character traits, Child development, Communication, Elementary School Children, Environmental influences, Expectations, Parent modeling, Parenting, Relationships, Toddlers

Cultivating empathy is a hot topic in the parenting world.  Current research has demonstrated that children under a year not only have the capacity for empathy but actually exhibit empathy. (Regarding infants:  http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-athletes-way/201306/empathy-appears-in-infancy-varies-age-and-gender   Regarding toddlers: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lX6krHsZA_w .) But parents, usually not educated to recognize and encourage this trait... Read more...
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“I Don’t Want To Go To School!”

by on Sep.10, 2013, under Adolescents, Behavior, Child development, Communication, Elementary School Children, Parenting, Peers, School, Sensitive Topics, Transitions

 Now that the school year has begun, it won’t be long before one morning you’ll awaken to the declaration, “I don’t want to go to school.” It’s a cry, actually more of a plea, which every parent is likely to face at least once, if not ten... Read more...
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Fathering is Interactive

by on Jun.10, 2013, under Adolescents, Attachment, Communication, Environmental influences, Expectations, Learning, Parenting, Relationships

On a recent Saturday morning, my husband and I found ourselves at the local park, right in the middle of Little League play offs. Déjà vu!  It was thrilling to relive our now grown kids’ baseball days in the park—cheers echoing across the field, coaches calling out... Read more...
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Circle the Wagons. How children learn to express empathy.

by on Apr.29, 2013, under Adolescents, Behavior, Character traits, Child development, Communication, Elementary School Children, Environmental influences, Expectations, Learning, Parent modeling, Parenting, Relationships, Sensitive Topics, Toddlers

Current research on the topic of empathy in children points to likelihood that infants as young as 6 months have the ability to demonstrate empathy.  Whether or how empathy develops as the child grows is a whole different story. Here we go again, nature vs nurture. A... Read more...
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How Will Your Kids Remember You?

by on Mar.11, 2013, under Adolescents, Attachment, Character traits, Communication, Elementary School Children, Parent modeling, Parenting, Relationships, Sensitive Topics

I’ve just returned from a funeral. A friend’s husband, father of five, died way before his time was up.   And it was a five Kleenex affair. My mirror neurons, the ones that make you match the emotions of others, were hard at work. (You know when someone yawns,... Read more...
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When A Pet Dies. Part 2 – for children 7 years and older

by on Feb.03, 2013, under Adolescents, Behavior, Child development, Communication, Elementary School Children, Learning, Parent modeling, Parenting, Relationships, Sensitive Topics, Transitions

“So, how do you handle the death of a pet when your child is older than 7 years?” asked a client after reading my previous blog, When a Pet Dies.  Good question. As children grow and mature, they begin to understand death differently. Children older than 7 years... Read more...
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The Trouble With “Whyyyyyyyyyyy?”

by on Jan.07, 2013, under Adolescents, Behavior, Brat-Proofing, Child development, Communication, Elementary School Children, Toddlers

You tell your child it’s time for bed. Instead of the pitter patter of feet running up the stairs, you get “Whyyyyyyy?”  All parents have heard it.  The funny thing is, you know your child isn’t really looking for an answer.  “Well, dear, your body needs sleep... Read more...
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Talking to Kids (or NOT) About What Happened in Connecticut

by on Dec.15, 2012, under Adolescents, Communication, Environmental influences, Parent modeling, Parenting, Safety, School, Sensitive Topics

There are no good words to explain to anyone—let alone to kids—what happened at the elementary school in Connecticut this morning. The horrific incident is every parent’s worst nightmare, unfathomable and unspeakable. The air is heavy with the horror. The president of our country wept during his... Read more...
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