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The After-Burn of Starting School

by on Aug.13, 2014, under Adolescents, Behavior, Brat-Proofing, Communication, Elementary School Children, Expectations, Parenting, School, Transitions

Summer time, and the livin’ is easy, as the song goes. And there it went! There can be a whole lot more to starting school than starting school. Whether a child is beginning preschool, third grade, middle or high school, after a long summer or just an... Read more...
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The Problem with “It’s Not Fair.”

by on Mar.17, 2014, under Adolescents, Behavior, Brat-Proofing, Child development, Communication, Elementary School Children, Expectations, Parent modeling, Parenting

“It’s not fair!”   Can’t you just hear the whiney tone that delivers that exclamation?   I’ve yet to meet a parent whose child hasn’t at some point or other protested “That’s not faaaiiiiiirrrr?”  (Note the drawn out faaaiiiirrrr,  added for extra impact on you, the parent.) As common and... Read more...
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Empathy is a Two Way Street

by on Feb.10, 2014, under Adolescents, Behavior, Brat-Proofing, Character traits, Child development, Communication, Elementary School Children, Environmental influences, Expectations, Parent modeling, Parenting, Relationships, Toddlers

Cultivating empathy is a hot topic in the parenting world.  Current research has demonstrated that children under a year not only have the capacity for empathy but actually exhibit empathy. (Regarding infants:  http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-athletes-way/201306/empathy-appears-in-infancy-varies-age-and-gender   Regarding toddlers: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lX6krHsZA_w .) But parents, usually not educated to recognize and encourage this trait... Read more...
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Kids in Restaurants, Part 2: Lousy Local Conditions

by on Jul.22, 2013, under Behavior, Brat-Proofing, Child development, Environmental influences, Expectations, Learning, Parent modeling, Parenting, Public Behavior, Toddlers

Kids in Restaurants, Part 2: Lousy Local Conditions On Friday I lunched with a colleague at a “grown up” restaurant. The atmosphere was quiet and refined.  Seated right next to us was a family of three—mother, father, and, in-between them, their adorable 18 month old child. We wouldn’t even... Read more...
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Kids in Restaurants?

by on Jul.17, 2013, under Behavior, Brat-Proofing, Child development, Communication, Discipline, Environmental influences, Expectations, Parent modeling, Parenting, Public Behavior, Toddlers

Our dinner at a local sushi restaurant was a bit earlier than we usually dine.  So I casually mentioned to my husband that we might overlap “family time” at the eatery.  But we decided that it wouldn’t be a problem; we both love kids.  Little did we... Read more...
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The Trouble With “Whyyyyyyyyyyy?”

by on Jan.07, 2013, under Adolescents, Behavior, Brat-Proofing, Child development, Communication, Elementary School Children, Toddlers

You tell your child it’s time for bed. Instead of the pitter patter of feet running up the stairs, you get “Whyyyyyyy?”  All parents have heard it.  The funny thing is, you know your child isn’t really looking for an answer.  “Well, dear, your body needs sleep... Read more...
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Why You Should Watch the Olympics with Your Kids: Olympic Lessons

by on Jul.25, 2012, under Adolescents, Brat-Proofing, Character traits, Child development, Communication, Elementary School Children, Environmental influences, Expectations, Learning, Parenting

Olympic fever is starting to rise, and here is the good news:  There are enough benefits to watching the Olympics as a family that you can throw your standard TV rules out the window.  Beyond sheer entertainment, there’s much to be learned by watching the games on... Read more...
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If Not Spanking, Then What?

by on Jul.03, 2012, under Behavior, Brat-Proofing, Child development, Discipline, Learning, Parent modeling, Parenting, Toddlers

Seems like almost every parent today knows that spanking is verboten. Everyone except that parent who says, “My father spanked me, and I turned out fine.” To him I want to say, You don’t remember how you felt while you were being spanked—the terror, the helplessness, the... Read more...
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Loose Parts

by on Apr.23, 2012, under Behavior, Brat-Proofing, Child development, Environmental influences, Expectations, Learning, Parenting

For years I have extolled the value of empty cardboard boxes—the ones in which your big appliances arrive—in the lives of children. You see cardboard box to be recycled; your child sees secret cave, fire station, beauty parlor, club house. But Caine Monroy has broadened even my... Read more...
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Tantrums: Doing What Comes Naturally.

by on Mar.22, 2012, under Behavior, Brat-Proofing, Child development, Discipline, Environmental influences, Expectations, Parenting, Public Behavior, Toddlers

There’s nothing like a toddler’s tantrum or an older child’s melt down to bring a parent to her knees.  It’s one of those behaviors that makes you feel inadequate and helpless, to say nothing of incompetent. Put that tantrum in a public place—a restaurant, the grocery store, the... Read more...
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