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No More Tattling!

by on Mar.13, 2016, under Adolescents, Behavior, Brat-Proofing, Communication, Discipline, Elementary School Children, Environmental influences, Expectations, Parenting, Relationships

In case you didn’t know, tattling should be illegal in your family. Many parents don’t realize that. When parents come to me for help with their kids’ fighting, I always ask is if their kids are tattletales. Just about 100% of the time the answer is YES! And... Read more...
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Get Ready for the New School Year!

by on Aug.08, 2015, under Adolescents, Behavior, Child development, Communication, Elementary School Children, Environmental influences, Expectations, Learning, Parenting, School, Transitions

It's mid-August... that means summer vacation is creeping to an end, depending upon your child's first day of school. For some it even starts next week. Summer time and the livin' was easy! Just thinking about the start of school can be stressful for kids. New teachers, new... Read more...
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Keeping Your Kids’ Brains Active in the Summer

by on Jun.15, 2015, under Adolescents, Behavior, Child development, Communication, Elementary School Children, Environmental influences, Expectations, Learning, Parenting, School

When kids think about summer vacation, it’s all about no school, no homework, no have-to’s, and these days, lots of tech time,  When parents think about summer it’s often, “What can I do to keep their brains from atrophying?”   It is not surprising to learn how much... Read more...
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Redirecting the Holiday Gimmes

by on Dec.18, 2014, under Brat-Proofing, Character traits, Communication, Expectations, Holidays, Parenting, Toddlers

Sugar Plum fairies and fa la la la la are not the only things that come with the winter holidays. So does a parent’s worst fear that she has raised the spoiled child she swore she would never have. At no other time of year do the... Read more...
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Hurrying is the Enemy

by on Oct.13, 2014, under Behavior, Child development, Communication, Expectations, Parenting, Relationships, Toddlers, Transitions

The outing to Starbucks with our two year old grandtoddler was perfect. Not a glitch.   No screaming, no crying, no collapsing into a heap, no refusal to walk, no running into the street, no running away.   And not one single tantrum.  The joys of being a grandparent. ... Read more...
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Back-to-School Blues

by on Sep.01, 2014, under Elementary School Children, Environmental influences, Expectations, Parent modeling, Parenting, Relationships, School, Transitions

“I’m a wreck!” was the reply from my client, mother of two elementary school age kids, when I asked her how things were going. Her children had started back to school the week before. And, truth be told, they were doing great. Both liked their teachers, classes,... Read more...
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The After-Burn of Starting School

by on Aug.13, 2014, under Adolescents, Behavior, Brat-Proofing, Communication, Elementary School Children, Expectations, Parenting, School, Transitions

Summer time, and the livin’ is easy, as the song goes. And there it went! There can be a whole lot more to starting school than starting school. Whether a child is beginning preschool, third grade, middle or high school, after a long summer or just an... Read more...
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The Problem with “It’s Not Fair.”

by on Mar.17, 2014, under Adolescents, Behavior, Brat-Proofing, Child development, Communication, Elementary School Children, Expectations, Parent modeling, Parenting

“It’s not fair!”   Can’t you just hear the whiney tone that delivers that exclamation?   I’ve yet to meet a parent whose child hasn’t at some point or other protested “That’s not faaaiiiiiirrrr?”  (Note the drawn out faaaiiiirrrr,  added for extra impact on you, the parent.) As common and... Read more...
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Empathy is a Two Way Street

by on Feb.10, 2014, under Adolescents, Behavior, Brat-Proofing, Character traits, Child development, Communication, Elementary School Children, Environmental influences, Expectations, Parent modeling, Parenting, Relationships, Toddlers

Cultivating empathy is a hot topic in the parenting world.  Current research has demonstrated that children under a year not only have the capacity for empathy but actually exhibit empathy. (Regarding infants:  http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-athletes-way/201306/empathy-appears-in-infancy-varies-age-and-gender   Regarding toddlers: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lX6krHsZA_w .) But parents, usually not educated to recognize and encourage this trait... Read more...
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