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Whose Birthday Party Is It?

by on Jan.23, 2012, under Brat-Proofing, Child development, Expectations, Holidays, Parenting

I might hold the record for having given the most single birthday parties. Each of my kids (triplets) had his/her own party from age two years old on up. It’s not that I am a glutton for punishment; it’s that there’s not much that is all yours... Read more...
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Toddler Tutoring?

by on May.18, 2011, under Child development, Expectations, Learning, Parenting, Toddlers

They’re getting younger and younger! Now there’s Junior Kumon, a program to teach your two year old academics. Seriously!  In a recent New York Times article, Fast-Tracking to Kindergarten, http://www.nytimes.com/2011/05/15/fashion/with-kumon-fast-tracking-to-kindergarten.html?_r=1&emc=eta1 author Kate Zernike highlights the proliferation of the new Kumon (and other) tutoring programs designed to  jumpstart... Read more...
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Excuse Me…Part II: Phonus Interruptus

by on Jan.30, 2011, under Behavior, Communication, Discipline, Expectations, Parent modeling, Parenting

Isn’t it amazing that as soon as the phone rings and you answer it, someone else needs you? This phenomenon, phonus interruptus, is pervasive in homes all across the country. Further, the more you tell your child that you are on the phone (as if he hasn’t noticed)... Read more...
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Roaring Back at the Tiger Mom

by on Jan.17, 2011, under Environmental influences, Expectations, Learning, Parenting

Was your parent one who asked, when you brought home an A-, “Why didn’t you get an A?” So many adults have a version of this tale to share. They have never forgotten it, twenty or thirty years later. Most children really do want their parents to be proud... Read more...
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Excuse Me…and Dont’ Interrupt!

by on Jan.09, 2011, under Behavior, Discipline, Expectations, Parenting

As often happens, over the weekend I ran into a client at the grocery store.  Mid aisle we stopped for a brief  greeting.  As soon as the mom began to speak to me, her son piped up with,  “Mom, Mom, can we get some Gatorade?” tugging at... Read more...
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Your Child is “Shy” Around Strangers

by on Dec.01, 2010, under Behavior, Expectations, Parenting, Public Behavior

An Interview with Betsy by Heidi Stevens of the Chicago Tribune Q: Your kindergartener is extremely shy around strangers. How do you get her to warm up to relatives she only sees at the holidays? Few topics are more complicated than family at the holidays, which is why Betsy... Read more...
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Be the Person You Want Your Child to Be

by on Sep.21, 2010, under Character traits, Expectations, Learning, Parent modeling, Parenting

“You will not believe this story,” began the email from a client who had just returned from family services for the Jewish New Year. She described the mother and three children sitting next to her own family. “She was knitting!” (Yes, you read it correctly,... Read more...
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Call Off the Race

by on Sep.15, 2010, under Environmental influences, Expectations, Learning, Parenting, School

For months I’ve waited for the chance to see Race to Nowhere, an incredible documentary film. The trailer was circulated around the web ages ago and caught my eye. I tell you now, run, don’t walk, to see it. (www.racetonowhere.com). That’s how important it is. When... Read more...
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Whose Dreams Are They, Anyway?

by on Jun.03, 2010, under Expectations, Parent modeling, Parenting, Transitions

I guess my book, You’re Not the Boss of Me, came out too late for the mom who wrote in the  Two Cents Worth column of my local newspaper:  I think the Pony Baseball Association should consider eliminating playoffs for the younger players (Pintos).  My Pinto player’s... Read more...
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Lousy Local Conditions

by on May.01, 2010, under Behavior, Character traits, Communication, Discipline, Environmental influences, Expectations, Parenting

While I cannot take credit for inventing the expression lousy local conditions, I use it all the time. It’s just so right-on-the-button. Lousy local conditions refers to those times when a child’s less than perfect behaviors are magnified or even created by the conditions of his environment. The... Read more...
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