Expectations
by Betsy on Jan.23, 2012, under Brat-Proofing, Child development, Expectations, Holidays, Parenting
I might hold the record for having given the most single birthday parties. Each of my kids (triplets) had his/her own party from age two years old on up. It’s not that I am a glutton for punishment; it’s that there’s not much that is all yours...
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:Birthday parties; Birthday favors; Birthday party guest lists; competition and birthday parties;birthday celebrations
by Betsy on May.18, 2011, under Child development, Expectations, Learning, Parenting, Toddlers
They’re getting younger and younger! Now there’s Junior Kumon, a program to teach your two year old academics. Seriously! In a recent New York Times article, Fast-Tracking to Kindergarten, http://www.nytimes.com/2011/05/15/fashion/with-kumon-fast-tracking-to-kindergarten.html?_r=1&emc=eta1 author Kate Zernike highlights the proliferation of the new Kumon (and other) tutoring programs designed to jumpstart...
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:Academics, Early Academics, Hurried child, Play, Pressure, Toddlers, Tutoring
by Betsy on Jan.30, 2011, under Behavior, Communication, Discipline, Expectations, Parent modeling, Parenting
Isn’t it amazing that as soon as the phone rings and you answer it, someone else needs you? This phenomenon, phonus interruptus, is pervasive in homes all across the country. Further, the more you tell your child that you are on the phone (as if he hasn’t noticed)...
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:cell phone, interruptions, Manners, Respect, Telephone
by Betsy on Jan.17, 2011, under Environmental influences, Expectations, Learning, Parenting
Was your parent one who asked, when you brought home an A-, “Why didn’t you get an A?” So many adults have a version of this tale to share. They have never forgotten it, twenty or thirty years later.
Most children really do want their parents to be proud...
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:Perfectionism, Pressure, Stress, Tiger Mother, Values
by Betsy on Jan.09, 2011, under Behavior, Discipline, Expectations, Parenting
As often happens, over the weekend I ran into a client at the grocery store. Mid aisle we stopped for a brief greeting. As soon as the mom began to speak to me, her son piped up with, “Mom, Mom, can we get some Gatorade?” tugging at...
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:Delaying gratification, Interrupting, interruptions, Manners, Mistakes, Patience, Respect
by Betsy on Dec.01, 2010, under Behavior, Expectations, Parenting, Public Behavior
An Interview with Betsy by Heidi Stevens of the Chicago Tribune
Q: Your kindergartener is extremely shy around strangers. How do you get her to warm up to relatives she only sees at the holidays?
Few topics are more complicated than family at the holidays, which is why Betsy...
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:family, new people, relatives, shy, Shy child, shyness
by Betsy on Sep.21, 2010, under Character traits, Expectations, Learning, Parent modeling, Parenting
“You will not believe this story,” began the email from a client who had just returned from family services for the Jewish New Year. She described the mother and three children sitting next to her own family. “She was knitting!” (Yes, you read it correctly,...
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:Character traits, Hypocrisy, Modeling, Parent as teacher, Parent bad behavior, Parent modeling, Parenting, Respect, Values
by Betsy on Sep.15, 2010, under Environmental influences, Expectations, Learning, Parenting, School
For months I’ve waited for the chance to see Race to Nowhere, an incredible documentary film. The trailer was circulated around the web ages ago and caught my eye. I tell you now, run, don’t walk, to see it. (www.racetonowhere.com). That’s how important it is.
When...
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:classes, Down time, Enrichment classes, extra curricular activities, Homework, New school year, Overscheduling, Pressure, Race to Nowhere, School, Stress
by Betsy on Jun.03, 2010, under Expectations, Parent modeling, Parenting, Transitions
I guess my book, You’re Not the Boss of Me, came out too late for the mom who wrote in the Two Cents Worth column of my local newspaper:
I think the Pony Baseball Association should consider eliminating playoffs for the younger players (Pintos). My Pinto player’s...
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:competition, Disappointment, dreams, Expectations, Feelings, Modeling, Parent bad behavior, Parenting
by Betsy on May.01, 2010, under Behavior, Character traits, Communication, Discipline, Environmental influences, Expectations, Parenting
While I cannot take credit for inventing the expression lousy local conditions, I use it all the time. It’s just so right-on-the-button.
Lousy local conditions refers to those times when a child’s less than perfect behaviors are magnified or even created by the conditions of his environment. The...
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:Compassion, Empathy, meltdowns, Misbehavior, Patience, Tantrums
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