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Circle the Wagons. How children learn to express empathy.

by on Apr.29, 2013, under Adolescents, Behavior, Character traits, Child development, Communication, Elementary School Children, Environmental influences, Expectations, Learning, Parent modeling, Parenting, Relationships, Sensitive Topics, Toddlers

Current research on the topic of empathy in children points to likelihood that infants as young as 6 months have the ability to demonstrate empathy.  Whether or how empathy develops as the child grows is a whole different story. Here we go again, nature vs nurture. A... Read more...
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How Will Your Kids Remember You?

by on Mar.11, 2013, under Adolescents, Attachment, Character traits, Communication, Elementary School Children, Parent modeling, Parenting, Relationships, Sensitive Topics

I’ve just returned from a funeral. A friend’s husband, father of five, died way before his time was up.   And it was a five Kleenex affair. My mirror neurons, the ones that make you match the emotions of others, were hard at work. (You know when someone yawns,... Read more...
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When A Pet Dies. Part 2 – for children 7 years and older

by on Feb.03, 2013, under Adolescents, Behavior, Child development, Communication, Elementary School Children, Learning, Parent modeling, Parenting, Relationships, Sensitive Topics, Transitions

“So, how do you handle the death of a pet when your child is older than 7 years?” asked a client after reading my previous blog, When a Pet Dies.  Good question. As children grow and mature, they begin to understand death differently. Children older than 7 years... Read more...
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When A Pet Dies

by on Jan.29, 2013, under Behavior, Child development, Communication, Learning, Parent modeling, Parenting, Relationships, Sensitive Topics

More times that I can count, I have received a call from a parent saying sadly,“We have to put our dog down. I just can imagine what I am going to say to my little boy.” And every single time I kick myself for not including such... Read more...
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Talking to Kids (or NOT) About What Happened in Connecticut

by on Dec.15, 2012, under Adolescents, Communication, Environmental influences, Parent modeling, Parenting, Safety, School, Sensitive Topics

There are no good words to explain to anyone—let alone to kids—what happened at the elementary school in Connecticut this morning. The horrific incident is every parent’s worst nightmare, unfathomable and unspeakable. The air is heavy with the horror. The president of our country wept during his... Read more...
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You Are Who You Are When No One is Looking

by on Sep.09, 2012, under Behavior, Character traits, Child development, Communication, Environmental influences, Expectations, Holidays, Learning, Parent modeling, Parenting, Toddlers

The mother unwrapped the straw, poked it into the little box, and handed the drink to her toddler as they walked out of the grocery store. The sliver of straw paper slipped from the mother’s hand. I doubt that she even noticed it. Rolling my grocery cart back... Read more...
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The Odd Life of Parents Who Laugh at Their Children

by on Aug.27, 2012, under Character traits, Child development, Communication, Environmental influences, Parent modeling, Parenting, Sensitive Topics

The viral video of the two boys emoting after seeing The Odd Life of Timothy Green made my blood boil. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-aFV1r45sAQ  In the video two boys, perhaps 7 and 9 years old, are crying as they try to discuss the movie they had just seen, and the... Read more...
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If Not Spanking, Then What?

by on Jul.03, 2012, under Behavior, Brat-Proofing, Child development, Discipline, Learning, Parent modeling, Parenting, Toddlers

Seems like almost every parent today knows that spanking is verboten. Everyone except that parent who says, “My father spanked me, and I turned out fine.” To him I want to say, You don’t remember how you felt while you were being spanked—the terror, the helplessness, the... Read more...
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What Does Mommy Do?

by on Jun.12, 2012, under Parent modeling, Parenting

The mom’s tears at the end of the session spent counseling this soon-to-be separating couple were not surprising. Divorce is never easy. We had begun to discuss custody schedules, always a prickly topic. That’s when the dam broke. My empathetic comments about how painful these things are... Read more...
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Smartphone as Saboteur

by on May.28, 2012, under Adolescents, Behavior, Child development, Communication, Environmental influences, Expectations, Parent modeling, Parenting, Relationships, Toddlers

Technology is here to stay. No question there.  Children born today must become technologically literate in order to thrive in their world as they grow. No question there. Advanced technologies make parts of raising children easier. No question there either. Wait!  It’s spinning out of control. The horse... Read more...
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