Seems like almost every parent today knows that spanking is verboten. Everyone except that parent who says, “My father spanked me, and I turned out fine.” To him I want to say, You don’t remember how you felt while you were being spanked—the terror, the helplessness, the anger. Working with parents for 40 years has demonstrated to me that parents spank because they don’t know what else to do that “really works.” It is out of their simmering frustration that they resort to harsh physical … [Read more...] about If Not Spanking, Then What?
You asked your child come to dinner, and he didn't respond. So you ask him again, this time with a voice that's quite clear, direct, and firm. "Put your Leggos down and come to dinner now, please." And your child responds, "Stop screaming at me!" You are quite sure you didn't scream, you didn't even shout or yell, but it sure sounded that way to your child. He didn't even hear your words. Very often parents are not aware of the power of their tone. But children hear tone more loudly than … [Read more...] about Stop Screaming at Me!